An Open Letter To Tomi Lahren: Stop Making Me Look Bad

Wednesday, May 3, 2017

Tomi -

You and I have a lot in common. We're both conservative, both women, both 24, and both passionate about politics and current events. We're also both markedly opinionated and outspoken about our beliefs. Good for us!

I've kept an eye on you as your career has escalated because I admire you for many reasons. You're especially bold in your 'Final Thoughts', which takes a notable amount of courage and gumption—God knows you get a lot of hate on social media, so I respect your thick skin and perseverance. You're also incredibly well-spoken, which I've found is not the norm amongst conservative women our age, so I'm grateful for that—you're clearly intelligent, and I love it. I'm always happy to see fellow smart girls find success.

Recently, though, I've got a bone to pick with you. It's been my experience during my short time in the work world that older, more experienced professionals are hesitant to trust girls like you and me. It's not that we're bad at what we do, or that we're not smart, or capable—they're simply hesitant to take us seriously.

I used to work in a job where my boss made me feel valued for what I did. He complimented my hard work, my willingness to go the extra mile, and my patience with difficult coworkers—but he also winked at me every time he passed my desk, and responded to my request for more responsibilities within my role with, "well, you're very young."

Do you see what I'm getting at here? It's a fight for girls like us to be taken seriously in the work world. We're expected to prove ourselves before we're given a chance, meanwhile men our age and with comparable experience are often given those chances first. I've got to be reliable. I've got to be mature, trustworthy, sincere, serious, and I've got to be very, very careful.

Tomi, you have not been careful.

You've been loose with your words, reckless with your actions, and you've mishandled your conflict with The Blaze in a very public way. I'm happy for you that it's over. I'm sure it was stressful. I'm sure you're relieved to have your Facebook page back, which was rightfully yours to begin with. Those are very good things.

But yesterday, you did an interview with Playboy, and quite frankly, I've had enough. First of all—Playboy? Really, Tomi? You're a strong, outspoken, opinionated woman, and you lent your voice to the single publication most infamous for objectifying women? Be serious.

And second, I don't care how you feel about abortion. I really don't. I'm pro-life, but I don't care whether you agree with me or not. What I do care about, however, is how frivolous you've looked as you've flip-flopped from one stance to the other. I get being unsure how you feel about an issue, but here's my advice: if you're unsure, don't comment. It is really, REALLY that simple.

I sympathize with the struggle you've had these past few weeks. Truly, I get it. But for the sake of your fellow 24-year-old smart girls, get serious.

And stop making us look bad.

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